I have never joined facebook. I became a member of friendster back in 2003, when it was already so over, and I was briefly a myspace member until rupert murdoch bought it, then I thought, no thanks. like most freelancers with some downtime to fill in the workplace, friendster was an entertaining diversion. I was especially fond of the bulletin board back in the day — as it was an ideal way to publicize a show or find a roommate. but I haven’t used friendster or even looked at it much for quite some time, and many of my friends have moved on to other sites. I use myspace to listen to music, which is great. if I were in a band, I might consider joining, but why must the whole thing be so ugly? it just looks awful. as for facebook, I just couldn’t be tempted. I’ve had plenty of offers, thanks, but after watching one of my friends obsessively use it one day, it just seems so silly. and so what if it’s privately owned, isn’t it only a matter of time before google or microsoft or ebay buys it for a giant sum? I guess I’m tired of being watched.
so here are today’s poll questions for you:
1 are you on a social networking website? which one? why?
2 do you read the fine print? do you care who owns it? who owns your data?
3 am I the only one on the planet who finds these sites intrusive and weird? would I be invited to more parties if I had a facebook profile? or even get a job if I were on linked-in?
4 why does dan treacy want to be my friend on facebook when he isn’t really my friend in real life?
5 does having one of these profiles make us part of the ‘look at me’ generation? do you know any actual unions that have resulted from these things?
6 what is the downside of being on facebook? do your old school acquaintances, who you were hoping never to hear from again, try to invite you to keg parties?
in the 1980s they had the me generation or the me decade; and people have appeared to be getting more and more selfish ever since. I’m not saying it’s a generational thing, but those with narcissistic personality disorder (or are they merely egocentrics?) are definitely out there in large numbers. celebrities have it, as do evil cads and lousy boyfriends (I’ve met a couple of these, who also seem to be suffering from child man syndrome), and there are studies and newspapers tracking its rise. do these social networking sites encourage this kind of behavior? please weigh in with your comments. I’m not saying that I have no such tendencies — I have this silly blog, which is as self-obsessed as the next blog (simply because this isn’t the early 90s and I can’t write about indie-pop 7-inch singles every day because there aren’t any!). I have already given the internet powers plenty of personal data about my purchasing preferences, but I’m tired of it. I am in favor of escapism and a little big dumb fun, but maybe this guy has a point that digital narcissism will bore us to death. all the social networking I plan to do in the future is live and in person. anyone care to join me?